Book of Nights (bookofnights) wrote in violencefree,
Book of Nights

"Hideous child"

I'm having a slow conversation with someone that described herself as a "hideous child". That breaks my heart. You don't just wake up one day and say "Wow. I was a hideous child. I think I'll phone my mum and apologize."

You decide that you're hideous because someone tells you that. Or because they treat you so badly that you decide "If my parents treat me like this, it must be because I'm a Really Bad Person".

This is another reason why I so strongly believe in violence free parenting. Because it shapes the way these people will see themselves for the rest of their lives. Because it will determine the types of relationships they feel they deserve. Because there is a better way.
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